Below is the first part to a mini ebook I wrote on No-Regret Homeschooling. If you know someone waffling on the decision to homeschool, consider sharing this resource with them to encourage them.
Making the No-Regret Decision to Homeschool
This isn’t going to be long because this doesn’t have to be complicated. You are thinking about homeschooling, so you already have reasons to consider it. Or maybe you’ve already decided it’s what you want to do, but aren’t fully convinced it’s what you should do. Many reasons that push families to homeschool are fear-based: fear over what they are teaching at schools, fear over how your child has been or might be treated, fear over violence, and now fear over disease spreading through schools.
I want to offer you a different perspective. Personally, I always want to avoid any fear-based decision. I don’t want fear ruling my life. I want my life ruled by love instead. I want you to look at the decision to homeschool from the perspective opposite of fear– one of love.
Who loves your child more, you or the state? Homeschooling is a simple decision when you look at it from the perspective of love. No one loves your child more than you do. No one is going to care about your child more than you do.
Yes, there are awesome teachers out there that care about their students and are experts in their field, but they can’t ever care about your child the way you do. No matter how dedicated they are, they can’t tailor their day and their curriculum to fit your child. They can’t know your child the way you do.
You, however, even if you have multiple children and other demands, are more equipped to adapt and mold your child’s education in the way that’s best for them.
Curriculum standards are one-size-fits-all, but we know each child is different. Each human is unique, even identical twins. School could never give them the love and care that you can.
If you decide to homeschool out of love, then you will not fail your child. Love never fails. That’s a timeless truth. If you are homeschooling out of fear, you could fail. If your only motivation is to keep them away from school and not to provide and support your child’s education, then your child will be at a loss.
Getting that “why” down will be the most important step towards no-regret homeschooling. Homeschool your children simply because you love them. That love will never change, so your motivation will never change. There won’t be waffling in your decision.
It’s pretty simple to feel confident that you love your children more than the state does. You can apply the same confidence towards anyone who questions your decision to homeschool. You can shrug it off without offense. While they may care about your family, you can know that they don’t love your child as much as you do. No one else has that parent-child bond with your child.
*Deciding to send your child to school is not a sign of not loving your child. But, if that’s your decision, make it out of love and not fear!
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Great wisdom hear, Lee. Perspective is everything. Thanks for all you do!
Thank you so much for sharing this perspective! It is true & exactly what I needed to hear today. Too much focus on the fear factor leads to overwhelm and failure – I know this feeling of struggle all too well. Whereas focusing on the positive, on love, gives the proper mindset & enables perseverance & confidence in the choice to homeschool…and to do so successfully. God bless you for all you do!
This article was great and spot-on. Thanks for the encouragement!
I never saw it this way. We started homeschooling because of covid and kids and I liked it very much and will continue one more year. But what to do if dad wants them back in PS?
Can he see the benefits? Can you find ways to be linked in with other kids through activities now? Can he see that their hearts will be better cared for at home? Be praying for him and mostly for unity in a decision.
He is not involved in their education. Whether its school in PS or at home, it is me who knows where they stand, their weak areas and strong areas. Him and I come from the public school system and I feel because of this he may think that is the only way. Socialization is a big thing for him. This year we will be joining a co op and sports and music. I also feel he has that mentality of homeschooled kids not being ready for the real world. I’m starting to doubt myself for having strong feelings for continuing to homeschool. He tells me our kids will not be with us forever and they have to start being out there. My kids are 8, 6, and 3 by the way. It has gotten to a point that we argue over this. I have done a lot of research and presented him some of it but he has not even looked at it. He says he will get to it when he has free time. I gave it to him a week ago and he has had a lot of free time but has not even considered looking at what I got him to read.
Hi Maria! I’ve been homeschooling my three for 5 years. Initially it relieved a huge burden on all of us and gave us as a family time together. We aren’t in any co-ops but we go places and do things. My hubby was concerned about socialization too. Our kids are actually more sociable and outgoing because they get to be around people of all ages, races, cultures. They engage easily in conversations and a variety of subjects. They aren’t stifled by public school and its boxing in of ages and social class. I hope that encourages you if it feels like a good fit for your family.
Hi Maria,
I was in your shoes when I began looking into Homeschooling. Turning to the Lord in prayer will be your best bet, nothing is impossible with Him on your side. My husband was not involved in our childrens public school education either, yet he was totally against the idea of me homeschooling them. I would share all I learned through my research and he would shut me down immediately. I would turn, and go straight to the Lord and say” theres no talking to him Lord, he wont even listen to anything I say, how am I suppose to do this if he’s against it?” This happened many, many times, and every time it did I would turn to the Lord for help. After a while I began to doubt myself and agree with my husband that I couln’t educate our children. I spoke this to the Lord and I heard Him reply ” But I can!”
Immediatly all doubt was lifted off of me and a tremedous joy overcame me. It all became clear that day. I went straight to my husband and told him what I heard the Lord say, he looked at me and said” Okay, go check them out of schoool”
My children started home-school in the 4th and 2nd grade that year. This year they will start the11th and 8th grade all beacuse of those three words from Him.
It was a fight, but in the end He made a way for us. And, He will make a way for you too.
God bless you, and your family with the knowledge of His will! Dont give up!
Entrust everything that you do to the Lord, And your plans will be established.
Marie H.
I really appreciated this post. It convicted me and has given me a new perspective and direction in my prayer. Thank you.
Thank You Lee for all the work of your and your husbands hands. My family has been blessed along our HS journey beacause of all the thought and work that you pour out into this site.
No matter how long we’ve been homeschooling, we always need the reminder and encouragement you’ve written here.
Thanks again,
God bless you and your family always.
Marie H.
Do you have resources for k thru 9th?
Our curriculum covers preschool through 12th grade. You can click on “courses” on the menu to see all of the courses through 8th, then click high school to go to that site to see the rest.
Good read! new follower here.
Thank you for! that is true that no one will love our own kids as mush as us. I think homeschooling is a nice idea.